What Is Important?

Thinking of Giving Up?

I've been contemplating with a fellow college friend of mine. We are both single guys and we are both struggling with girl issues. I recently got out of a relationship, and he has been single for much longer. It's not that we don't want to date, but rather we don't want to date who we want to date. Instead, we want to date who God wants us to date. You see, I have been through three relationships. The first was ok. The only problem was we were too young to date. The other two, however, I decided to take my chances with personality and looks being the basis for our relationship. Both of these relationships grew very physical, very fast. Through these last two relationships, however, I have discovered that, just like marijuana is a gateway drug, kissing is a gateway physical contact. It starts with holding hands and hugs. I am totally cool with these! But I find the real problem is when kissing comes into the relationship. Granted, alone and by itself in the appropriate context, I believe kissing is fine. However, EXTREME caution must be used. I find it extremely difficult for me to treat a girl as a person when kissing enters into the relationship. Therefore, I must set boundaries for myself. These boundaries are MUCH more strict than my previous relationships.

I have failed in the past with relationships because I cannot put God at the center of it. All I have ever done is date due to the love I have for the person, rather than the love I have for God. But that all changes this year. This year, I am taking my relationships to God. God WILL be the center of my next, and successful relationship.